Inviting Themselves?

[oneshot]

Ok back when I had a Boat people would invite themselves for opening of Snagging Season. I know I had say over my Boat but it was always over loaded and very little snagging done.

Well I could never get anyone to go with me when I wanted to go, found I was catching plenty of fish from the bank. And I enjoy myself. So I sold my Boats.

Well we have a Cabin 10 miles South of Warsaw as close to Truman Lake as I can get. Drive couple miles and have best spots to set back and fish and can drive right to them.

Well seems a couple are wanting to come in a couple weeks and go Catfishing figuring they will be off the nest and he has a Boat. He has 3 Boats and told me I could use a Boat any time I wanted.

Just bothers me people inviting themselves. I guess I'm crazy like that over the years have been invited to many Hunting and Fishing trips. Have always been reluctant but after I'm once involved enjoyed myself.

I just wish I kids would want to be involved with us. Had one Son out of the blue invited me on several Hunting Trips and went on one Fishing Trip. I couldn't do much because I had been operated on and almost died, was told not to do anything for a year. This same Son drove right by the Hospital while I was there and didn't stop. Well my Grandson his Son told me the only reason he was doing this with me was because he was wanting my Boat. Didn't last long now he no longer wants anything to do with me. 

We have six Kids and none really have anything to do with us. We have one Son we drive 70 miles one way to work for him twice a week. We are not close but he likes us there because we keep others from stealing off him. Last year he had 25K stolen off him.

Have one kid come right out saying he hates me and just soon not want anything to do with me the others just never come around.

Don't really know my grip just not sure how to deal with people inviting themselves to what I have? I just soon do the inviting. 

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[Krazo]

Sometimes, not always, but sometimes I think people invite themselves looking for any opportunity of fellowship with one another rather than an opportunity to use our stuff. Our perceptions are easily turned into reality for us but sometimes our perception is not accurate. 

I too try not to invite myself to places/things. I feel it is rude. But there are times when I want to spend time with others that i will put an idea out there, such as getting together at their place or doing something they enjoy, so as to make it easier for them. It doesn't always work out. 

[MOPanfisher]

Heck if I want to go fishing it dont bother me if others want to go with me, unless I am going to one of my secret spots.  If they don't want to go when I do go without them.  I get calls from buddies with questions like want to meet me at the ramp in an hour because most of them know I will happily abandon whatever I was planning to go fishing.  Fishing is always fun, fellowshipping (often spelled BSing with buddies is even better.)  Sometimes it takes a call from a friend to get me off center and hook up the boat, otherwise I might be mowing grass, working in the garden or just sitting in the big chair.

[MoCarp]

I understand....I enjoy fishing with good company, one reason I started the euro carp fishing, met some people at a Carp Anglers Group "Fish-In" and have made long lasting friendships...its social fishing, many times a good conversation is interrupted by a take...not everyone enjoys getting "uncomfortable" to go fishing.

Had buddies I went boat fishing with many an hour in pursuit of that wall hanger Walleye, Smallie or Trout yet of all the bank fishing with Euro Gear has been my Favorite

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5 hours ago, Krazo said:

Sometimes, not always, but sometimes I think people invite themselves looking for any opportunity of fellowship with one another rather than an opportunity to use our stuff. Our perceptions are easily turned into reality for us but sometimes our perception is not accurate. 

I too try not to invite myself to places/things. I feel it is rude. But there are times when I want to spend time with others that i will put an idea out there, such as getting together at their place or doing something they enjoy, so as to make it easier for them. It doesn't always work out. 

Yes my Daughter got mad at me because she was wanting me to contact friends for Tickets for her to use on certain Shows. I told her I wouldn't do this. It was different if they wanted to show me a Good time because we're Friends but not using me for my Families Pleasure.

Had one friend I was hanging out with their Family. We all went out. Everyone was asking this person for their autograph. After the evening was done I told them knowing them for many years I felt awkward and asked if I could have their autograph. They told me sure that it meant more giving it to a true friend. 

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