Stolen Gear List

[Bill Babler]

Can’t even express how sorry I am. 

Friend a few years ago during the same situation found all his Orvis gear broken in half and in the dumpster in front of his wife’s home. Formerly their home. Right at $15,000 worth of rods broken to pieces. Waders with cuts coats and boots burned.

Don’t understand how people you have loved can do this. 

He didn’t cheat it was just a non-compatibility divorce. She got off scot clean. 

Very sorry for your entire family. 

Goid Luck

 

[mixermarkb]

Yep. This one isn’t about cheating either. It was supposed to be “we can be good friends and good co-parents” and that lasted about a week.. I’m not blameless, but she’s just not the person I was married to for 12 years. I have my suspicions as to why, but I won’t voice them in a public forum, and we will just have to see if they turn out to be true or not as we move through the process. 

[Gavin]

Likely in a dumpster. Add it to the list of deductions in the settlement if she had custody.  Should have stayed there, if possible, or carted all of your stuff out prior to move out. Sorry for your drama, but it is only temporary. Better times await!

[Terrierman]

I got a divorce a few years ago.  Was in touch with my lawyer prior to getting it going.  His advice which was sterling was to wait for a day when she is gone, take everything you hold dear with you and do not go back home under any circumstances.  Divorce is tough but a good lawyer can make a lot of difference.  Good luck getting paid for your gear, my bet is you never see any of it again.

[fishinwrench]

If you need something to feel thankful for just lemme know......and I'll share MY divorce story with ya. 

It could be A LOT worse, trust me. 🥺

[mixermarkb]

4 hours ago, fishinwrench said:

If you need something to feel thankful for just lemme know......and I'll share MY divorce story with ya. 

It could be A LOT worse, trust me. 🥺

LOL!!!

I’ll take that bet. I’m not gonna tell it here in a public forum, but this is only scratching the surface. Things are *significantly* crazier when it comes to all the non fishing related stuff that I won’t take up Phil’s bandwidth for, because I can’t change a dang bit of it. I’m only hoping that once we actually get things in front of a judge, that the truth will actually come out. 

I don’t even recognize the person I’m divorcing. She’s simply not the same human as I was married to for 12 years. If I believed in demonic possession, I’d say it was the case here. 

I absolutely would have gone and got stuff sooner, but she waited until I was here in STL for work to tell me she wanted a divorce, and then things spiraled out of control after that. My only saving grace right now is that her dad is being very nice and letting me visit my son at his house. When you aren’t allowed within 500 feet of your soon to be ex, but you can still sit down in her dad’s living room and visit with him like normal, and he says “I love you son” when you leave, you kinda get confirmation that the issue here is not all your fault. 
 

[bfishn]

Hang in there. 24 years ago for me, I'm still not back to normal. 🤪

[fishinwrench]

4 hours ago, mixermarkb said:

 

I’ll take that bet. I’m not gonna tell it here in a public forum, but this is only scratching the surface. Things are *significantly* crazier when it comes to all the non fishing related stuff that I won’t take up Phil’s bandwidth for,

Oh goody!   Y'all are gonna LOVE this, and if this doesn't make you feel fortunate then I'll eat your hat. 

First marriage ended with both of us remaining friends, but the second one......Oooh Boy !    Met her on a Salmon fishing trip in Michigan, a dis-communicated (that means "kicked out") Jehovah Witness, pretty as hell, perfect smile, beautiful voice, and a genuine firecracker in the sack!   

Lesson #1) If they are CRAZY in bed then they are crazy when not in bed also.....But when you're mid-30's and horny a guy can fail to make intelligent choices.   I was so madly IN LOVE that I married her and moved her and her 2 kids in with me.  All was great for the first couple years, until a visit from the local JW's happened......and suddenly she became obsessed with getting back "into the truth" and reconnecting with her family that had "shunned" her.    

Well who was I to stand in the way of THAT, right?    I even embarked into extensive Bible study, even though I was clear that I had no interest whatsoever in joining the JW congregation, but if that's what she needed to do .....fine👍   

She got real weird shortly afterwards.  So weird that even her kids were nervous around her, and looked to ME for sanity, stability, and level-headedness.   This infuriated her!  "How dare you get between me and my children!" 😮  

I was certainly no angel, fished all the time, worked when I wasn't fishing, smoked weed (which was forbidden at the time), started sleeping on the couch, and spent more quality (fun) time with the kids than I did with her.   THEN a F3 tornado hit my place.... and that was the straw....

She said she was leaving.  I said "Don't let the door hit you in the rear end on your way out".  We agreed to a divorce,  but the elders in her "church " told her if she did then she would be dis-communicated AGAIN.    JW's can't just divorce their mate unless their spouse does something ABSOLUTELY HIDEOUS AND UNGODLY.  

So one day I'm cleaning up tornado damage and preparing to rebuild my house & shop.....and here comes a deputy sheriff with a warrant for my arrest.   🤔

CHILD MOLESTATION 1st degree !  

I thought it was a joke 🤣 

Nobody else at the Sheriff's dept. thought it was a joke though! 😳 except for close friends and family that were around all the time...... but there wasn't anything THEY could do.  

When I heard what she had alleged I completely lost my cool and exploded in a room full of cops.   That just made it worse....."Oh, he's not only a child molester, he's uncontrollably violent too!"   

I demanded a polygraph test....even though it wasn't admissable.....just so my lawyer would BELIEVE ME 🙏 But nobody could request one for HER.  

I lost half the insurance settlement for my house/property PLUS 40k in lawyer fees, PLUS had to walk 5 years of probation as a sex offender.   They bled me dry (penniless) to the point that I couldn't afford to pay lawyers anymore, and was forced into a plea agreement.  No evidence whatsoever....but you can't just INTERROGATE children ya know!   And at that point I was too scared to allow a jury filled with people that believe angels are real.....to decide my fate.   

Took me 6 years and a slew of good friends to help me regain my sense of humor. And 12 years of hard work to recover financially 

 

 

So keep your head up, brother.  Consider the loss of the fishing gear and half the house/cars/boats/whatever... your TORNADO.......and hope like hell that she doesn't join any cults and/or get any desperate "ideas".     🙂      Life gets better starting NOW 👍

[Ketchup]

12 minutes ago, fishinwrench said:

Oh goody!   Y'all are gonna LOVE this, and if this doesn't make you feel fortunate then I'll eat your hat. 

First marriage ended with both of us remaining friends, but the second one......Oooh Boy !    Met her on a Salmon fishing trip in Michigan, a dis-communicated (that means "kicked out") Jehovah Witness, pretty as hell, perfect smile, beautiful voice, and a genuine firecracker in the sack!   

Lesson #1) If they are CRAZY in bed then they are crazy when not in bed also.....But when you're mid-30's and horny a guy can fail to make intelligent choices.   I was so madly IN LOVE that I married her and moved her and her 2 kids in with me.  All was great for the first couple years, until a visit from the local JW's happened......and suddenly she became obsessed with getting back "into the truth" and reconnecting with her family that had "shunned" her.    

Well who was I to stand in the way of THAT, right?    I even embarked into extensive Bible study, even though I was clear that I had no interest whatsoever in joining the JW congregation, but if that's what she needed to do .....fine👍   

She got real weird shortly afterwards.  So weird that even her kids were nervous around her, and looked to ME for sanity, stability, and level-headedness.   This infuriated her!  "How dare you get between me and my children!" 😮  

I was certainly no angel, fished all the time, worked when I wasn't fishing, started sleeping on the couch, and spent more quality (fun) time with the kids than I did with her.   THEN a F3 tornado hit my place.... and that was the straw....

She said she was leaving.  I said "Don't let the door hit you in the rear end on your way out".  We agreed to a divorce,  but the elders in her "church " told her if she did then she would be dis-communicated AGAIN.    JW's can't just divorce their mate unless their spouse does something ABSOLUTELY HIDEOUS AND UNGODLY.  

So one day I'm cleaning up tornado damage and preparing to rebuild my house & shop.....and here comes a deputy sheriff with a warrant for my arrest.   🤔

CHILD MOLESTATION 1st degree !  

I thought it was a joke 🤣 

Nobody else at the Sheriff's dept. thought it was a joke though! 😳 except for close friends and family that were around all the time...... but there wasn't anything THEY could do.  

When I heard what she had alleged I completely lost my cool and exploded in a room full of cops.   That just made it worse....."Oh, he's not only a child molester, he's uncontrollably violent too!"   

I demanded a polygraph test....even though it wasn't admissable.....just so my lawyer would BELIEVE ME 🙏 But nobody could request one for HER.  

I lost half the insurance settlement for my house/property PLUS 40k in lawyer fees, PLUS had to walk 5 years of probation as a sex offender.   They bled me dry (penniless) to the point that I couldn't afford to pay lawyers anymore, and was forced into a plea agreement.  No evidence whatsoever....but you can't just INTERROGATE children ya know!   And at that point I was too scared to allow a jury filled with people that believe angels are real.....to decide my fate.   

Took me 6 years and a slew of good friends to help me regain my sense of humor. And 12 years of hard work to recover financially 

 

 

So keep your head up, brother.  Consider the loss of the fishing gear and half the house/cars/boats/whatever... your TORNADO.......and hope like hell that she doesn't join any cults and/or get any desperate "ideas".     🙂      Life gets better starting NOW 👍

We talked about this when we fished that tournament. Sucks just as bad now reading it as it did a few years ago.  Glad you’re back to ornery. 

[mixermarkb]

It’s not child molestation, but I too was arrested in my mom’s front yard on nonsense felony charges. I’m currently waiting on a preliminary hearing, so I’m not going to say more, but yeah, I feel your pain.